Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Sloppy Joe's for Dinner

Not really down the road toward arterial cleanliness or a spit shined colon, but it sure is a good old reliable comfort meal. One of the great "cold night dinner" memories I had growing up in Rochester, New York. Hard to believe they were supposedly "created" in Key West Florida at Sloppy Joe's Bar. Although it might be a quick easy grub concoction for a crew of hungry pirates, Ahhrr maties!

An alternative tale of the sandwich origin is a cook named Joe at a cafe in Sioux City, Iowa. Now it does get cold enough there to warrant such a creation me thinks, but alas no pirates out there.


The Kaiser rolls in the pic are a little sexier and more substantial than the thin Wonder Bread Hamburger Buns we used to have as kids but they'll do just fine. This is not a special recipe dish although they were so good I might just work on doctoring them up a bit to make it my own. Then again why mess with something that tastes so good and you only have a couple of times a year at most!


Sweet pickle slices and steamed corn to boot. Now isn't this special?



Saturday, January 28, 2012

The 65th Anniversary

Mom said it out loud. I had been thinking of it for days ahead. As the date approached, I wondered how to start the first conversation with her when I got to the house. I definitely wanted to acknowledge to her that it was important and not forgotten, never lost.

Then when I got there it was totally not on my mind at all. We chatted for a few minutes and as I asked about her breakfast, pills and bills while settling into his chair, there it was...

"Today's my 65th wedding anniversary you know."

Damn!



Heavy Lifting
01/28/12 

We all gathered at the house as our lives allowed
spouse, children, grandchildren, relatives and friends.
Bringing hot meals, buzzing with chores, sharing memories
to brighten a light that is, by design, growing dim.

All efforts made in silent coordination with reverent steps.
Look how well we move as one like army ants on the march
as if to say, “Don’t worry we’ve got it.”
Without really forcing the sounds from our lips
thinking the mention of the words will hasten some finality.
Yet knowing that darkness is near, we catch shallow breaths.

It is for him, it is for ourselves and it is for each other.
To make the effort and feel like we’ve made the effort
but realizing in our hearts it is the work of departure.

I remember what he used to say about the unattainable 
Christmas gift. “It’s on a slow boat from China.”
It was a thought full of hope and unintelligible voices
on a boat we would never see.

Yet, I like to think he is under sail on that ship of dreams
enjoying all the promise that will ever be.



Friday, January 13, 2012

What's The Dish On The Dog

Since it was Mr. Frisky's idea for me to start this blog and he was the subject matter of the first one, I thought it was time for a doggy update. Today we had to go to the veterinarian's office for a follow-up to learn how to give our boy insulin shots.

He's really happy to be at the vet's office, right?

Yes, he is a diabetic little guy. Almost 13 years old in people time which definitely puts him on the senior side of life as canines go. He is a bit overweight and has been for a long time. Hind hips are weakening (there's a medication for that), he has a thyroid condition (ditto on the meds) and now his diabetes will require shots twice a day. Animals do not respond to the oral meds, oh bother!

Turns out it is quite a common ailment in pets. More common in cats than dogs but, no matter, our boy has it and we'll have to deal with it. Doc says shop around it should run you about $30 or so for the insulin and the syringes are cheap.

He showed me how to grab the scruff of his neck in my hand and take aim about half an inch below my thumb, let 'er rip and push the plunger. He even loaded four syringes to "get us through the weekend." Then I suppose we are on our own for sourcing his doggy works.

Our first price check was a local grocery/pharmacy, syringes $17 for 100#, insulin $82 for a vial, sheesh! We love Frisky but there has to be a more reasonable (cheaper) way to do this!

First solo shot at home I wanted to make sure there were no air bubbles in the syringe doc fixed for me. I put a little pressure on the plunger  and discovered it doesn't take a lot...lost a little medicine oops! Trust the doc he's done it a million times.


Monday, January 9, 2012

At The Window - Mid-Morning Vertical Thoughts

This is the view from my seat at the computer mid-morning. I think that "blinds" are aptly named tools for protecting us inside and out. They help me have a sense of control over my surroundings. Pull the string to let the world in or shut it out in one simple motion.

The world being controlled is the sunlight and the general public. The decision is mine. The mechanism is simple. No electric motors. Just slats, some gears and a string at the ready for whatever amount of privacy or exposure my mood dictates. I love the easy physics of it all.


They are vertical not horizontal. I think verticals give me a sense of a cleaner look because the dust can't settle on them as easily. That may not be true but it is what I am thinking and do not have enough interest to Google and find out the "actual" truth about verticals.

I think the blinds are a metaphor for a deeper truth of the mind, perspective. After all, life or one's mental wellbeing is all about how you look at things, the perspective you choose to have. I think the cognitive workings of the mind are very much like the working parts of the blinds.

With "simple" adjustments we can change our view to reach a comfort level to get ourselves through the day. Some days more light gets in and other days, well ... not so much.

Think vertical and don't allow the dust of life to settle on your mind!

Friday, January 6, 2012

Backyard Musing

My lawn out back is nothing like it was when we moved into the house close to 20 years ago. What once was a relatively consistant form of grass has been replaced by a mixture of grasses and weeds that have different growth cycles and tendencies to overtake space whenever they are flourishing.

Our neighbor family on the north side remain the same but their children have grown and moved away. Now the boys are occasional visitors and there is a grandchild who looks so much like his dad. On the south side we have had many changes since the house became a rental property. Not necessarily a good thing.

One thing hasn't changed out back. That is the wonderful opportunity to share space with some interesting "wildlife" visitor/residents. Big and small alike, they are all interesting in their own way and help to remind me that we do not really own this space on the planet, but just share it for a time.

Some fall friends.
PS. If you click on the pic you can get a better look.



The front "garden"?
A Pileated Woodpecker ~ he only visited Thanksgiving Day
They can get up to 18 inches and this one was all of that







A young Hawk out by the lake
Wish I had a better camera I couldn't get too close

I think he's looking at me here.

This guy was enjoying the sun and was proud of his tail

Thursday, January 5, 2012

On The Rail and Road

STORY:


The Rail
I was drafted into the service in the summer of 1966 and inducted in the fall. I suppose they could have placed me in any branch but the bigger call at that time was for the Army. I was 19 years old and very much an immature home body.  After one year at the local community college they decided not to invite me back for the fall semester. During that year of college I learned all about broken hearts, playing pool on small tables at the local taverns and drinking enough to make a blur of the memories. I also learned I was not cut out to be an Accountant.

Did I mention drinking? There was enough pathos in my undirected life to fill a couple of old style country and western albums. The only thing I fell short on was fighting and jail time. I've always been more the lover than the fighter.

The actual induction happened in Buffalo, New York. I can't recall how many people were there that day but I do remember standing in lines for everything. There was a lot of "sorting" going on and some rudimentary medical physical processing as well. The crescendo was the swearing-in ceremony where after repeating "I" we all inserted our own names in a fractured hodgepodge and then  echoed a pledge to uphold the constitution against all enemies with honor in relative unison. Some were more enthusiastic than others.

Until that day I had never taken a train ride other than the Rochester Subway when I was a Cub Scout. Shortly after that the subway was scrapped and the byways were converted in part to what became known as the Inner Loop and the "Can of Worms" highway interchanges. That's progress all right.

So we boarded a train on the evening of my induction for an overnight ride to Grand Central Station in New York City and then Grey Line Busses to finish the ride to Ft. Dix, New Jersey.

The memory in the poem is about riding the train in the middle of the night right through the heart of my hometown, Rochester, laying in a sleeper compartment, listening to WBBF on my transistor radio and realizing that I could not and was not getting off that train and going home for quite a while. I listened until the familiar station signal was just static and then listened a little longer hoping it would get strong again. It did not and I don't remember sleeping much on that ride.

The Road
The second tale of the poem happened in the summer of 1969. Not quite sure how it came about but there we were. Three guys from Rochester (some might say hippie types) taking a tour of the country in a beat-up old VW Bus. By the time we got to Detroit the only way we could start the bus was pushing it and popping the clutch. I was glad there were three of us. We drove, ate and most nights slept in the van.

I remember a few legs of the trip. Passing through The Black Hills National Forrest of North Dakota in pitch dark and suddenly noticing huge Bison roaming free right next to the road. Very startling if you are not expecting to see such a sight. I mean they are huge!

Somewhere along the way we got word of a big music festival back in New York. A bunch of great bands were going to be there with several thousand fans showing up for the bash. We were not going back for it though. Who ever heard of Woodstock anyway?

I remember having a strange encounter with a guy (I want to say his name was George), again in the middle of the night, outside Kanab Utah and stopping at a bar along the way. Some gentlemen with unfamiliar twangs in their voices asked us if we were in town looking for a hayin' job. We weren't sure we heard them correctly and asked them to repeat the question, which they did with a little more clarity and emphasis on the "haying" part.

Apparently the process of cutting and bailing hay (thus haying) was quite labor intensive and I suppose we looked like we needed work. We politely answered no and got out of town pretty quickly laughing all the way over the misunderstanding.

The next day or so we made our way to Las Vegas. Back in the day it was a much smaller city than it is today. The classic casinos and "The Rat Pack" of entertainment were in full swing. Circus Circus was the newest in town and we spent some time seeing all that they had to offer, for free that is. Since we didn't take a hayin' job in Kanab we didn't have a lot of cash for gambling.

Again late at night we left Las Vegas heading for California. As we began our assent over the mountains the road was pitch dark and in the rearview mirror we could see the lights of Vegas glowing so brilliantly it was just amazing. We pulled over to the side of the road too look at the glimmering energy of the city, but the real show was the stars on a totally clear night. I can't remember if there was a moon in the sky or not, but the weight and pulse the blanket of stars provided was totally overwhelming. It was stupendous to say the least. We didn't know what to expect from California but it was exciting to think about it as we launched our van off the desert floor and into the mountain pass.



POEM:


Two Tales
01/02/12


A passage on the night train ride to Ft. Dix
clink clank rhythm of metal wheels on cold rails 
and side to side sway of sleeper cars
a soothing pace but no rest 
so unaccustomed to being on my own
to watch by moonlight
the mesmerizing spacing of the telephone poles
and dipping rising refrain of weather weary wires.


Broken white lines on a midnight stretch 
of unlit desert highway
leaving Vegas lights behind
like a jewel in a pitch black pot of berry wine
with so many stars there is no twinkle but
a pulse that beats in every possible direction 
feeling safe in the toasty Mojave womb
so overwhelmed we were giddy with it all
heading west for a coastal rebirth
we cleaved the La Madre Range.